1. (n.) A behavior of becoming attracted to or aroused by intelligence and its use.

Origins: From the Latin root sapien, wise or intelligent, and Latin sexualis, relating to the sexes.

source:  http://www.unwords.com/unword/sapiosexuality.html

In all the various ways we seek to label our sexual preferences, to share with others what it is that turns us on, here we have it: Sapiosexual, the closest orientation I feel that defines me. I used to identify as a bibliophile, but I moved past that.

There are many many forms of intelligence: cultural, emotional, structural, historical… Any type of deep seated inner wisdom can be an intellectual prowess that I find irresistible.   It is inline with being a Gemini. The dual sides, the double extremes: yes, I do want both depth and surface.  

Also, sapiosexuality, for me, transcends hetero/homo sexuality.  I flutter like a moth around those lightbulb type beings. A brain sparkling from kinetic energy and the light of insight shining from behind their eyes. I can own that a strong physical attraction matters a lot to me in regards to who I choose to spend my time with. But there is a prime differentiator that I have a hard time explaining.

The intellect that turns me on is one that can not be denied. It is the difference between attempting to prove superiority by wit and a person who just oozes knowledge as a way of being. Beyond contrived conveyance, it is simply how the person moves through their world with trust, with accuracy, with understanding, and with curiosity.


  • Bree

    Truly. I am so glad you shined a light on this word.

  • http://apoeticjustice.blogspot.com/ thepoetryman

    Nicely written… A behavior of becoming attracted to or aroused by intelligence and its use.

    I too am a sapiosexual…

  • http://maybemaimed.com/ maymay

    Another term with the same meaning that is sometimes more accessible to people is “intellisexual,” whose roots are easier for those without etymological training. I wrote a bit about this a while ago, too. :)

  • http://airial.wordpress.com airial

    Great profile, I remember reading it :)

    This really struck me:
    “The single biggest turn on anyone can tempt me with is intellectual collaboration. If I find value in your work, you suddenly become very attractive to me. The minds of motivated people who innovate in their fields are brilliantly sexy. I know this sounds corny, but it’s true. I’m an intellisexual, through-and-through.”


    Thank you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/mlopack Melody Lopack

    This article sang to me. I am an extreme Gemini (almost all of my planets, including the ones of communication and intelligence), so when you touched on that part I found it extremely profound. I just found out that there is a term (sapio…) for what I always thought was “wrong” with me… and this little blurb of yours really tied it together. I also love the last part about how a person has to present it so that it is honest and real.

    In short, thank you!

  • AirialClark

    Thank you for reading! I’m glad you felt a connection.