Sometimes when I open my laptop in the morning, all the awesome just floods in. It’s my own doing of course. I’ve curated my social media streams toward the awesome side of the sexuality news spectrum.
Ok, so here’s a lil blog post I did for Oakland Local. It contains online resources for parents and my own nudge in the sex-positive perspective. I’ll be blogging over there more often about parenting and sexuality resources specific to the East Bay, mostly local in y’know, Oakland.
Next read this quote:
I’m not saying that everyone is — or should be — throwing key parties or hunting for a plot of land to start a sex-based commune with 40 of their closest friends. I’m saying it’s time to start breaking down our antiquated ideas about romance and relationships, many of which are largely based on ideas of control and fear, and start talking openly and honestly about what really works best for each of us.
How brilliant is that? Noah Michelson, you just made my day! This comes from his post about the photo’s of Anderson Cooper’s boyfriend, Ben Maisani, kissing some other guy. It’s a good read. And it hits on the second tenet of sex-positivity: do what works for you. Know thyself, sweetie-darling, know thyself! Click to read the HuffPo piece!
Next up, Jane Fonda is that cool grandma you all wish you had. I say you, because my own grandma is pretty damned cool and reminds me of Jane Fonda in a lot of ways. So my approach to sex-positive parenting has always been to have a running dialogue, little conversations build into a strong foundation to raise sexually-aware children. It’s in my ebook! So when The Quizzical Mama posted this link on FB and then I read the headline “Actress says one Big Talk wrong approach”… you know I did a the lil happy laptop dance. Which is kind of an exaggerated butt-wiggle, but I digress. Check out what Jane Fonda has to say about why she added a chapter on talking to your kids about sex in her upcoming book:
“There’s a lot of books about plumbing and how everything works, but …I talk about sexuality in the context of identity. That it isn’t just about intercourse, that to be human is to be sexual. There’s nothing dirty or weird about it, and it’s important to understand it very deeply.”
That’s right! Sex-positive parenting is all about the identity and deeper understanding of human sexuality. Woot!
So now back to Oakland, the town that I love. Tomorrow night, Thursday Aug 16th, 2012 there is I’m going to go ahead and say unprecedented opportunity for adults to hear what youth have to say about the quality of the sexuality education. Forward Together has their annual summer event, check the description:
Oakland Speaks: Youth Share their New Vision for Sexuality Education. We will be releasing “Let’s Get It On,” our research report on the state of Sex Education in the Oakland Unified School District (OUSD). Through skits, music, dance and poetry we will share with the community our new vision for Sex Education in OUSD…
That’s right, research data & first person youth perspective on sexuality education in one evening. If you’re in the town I suggest you go. If you see me, say “Hey!” Here’s the FB invite page.
Another Oakland event is this month’s Bawdy Storytelling. The theme is “Heros & Villains”. Expect to see people tell their true to life tales in costumes. Why do I love Bawdy storytelling so much? Because it’s honest. And entertaining as all get out. But really, how many pubic forums do we have for just everyday people to talk about their sexuality? And I don’t mean in the reality TV show kind of way. That shit is so edited and warped we can’t look at those shows as honest. At Bawdy, you get 10 mins to be on stage, then you melt back into the audience. Dixie is a great storytelling coach, she constantly reminds people to stick to what happened. Don’t perform, just tell. Check it out at the Uptown Nightclub Thursday Aug 23rd, 7pm. I’ll be there working a table, so again come say hi!
Now for some SF Event love!
First event is BiblioBound. This Saturday Aug 18th. Damn. Just…. damn. This is one of those living in the Bay Area moments. There’s going to be a bondage party in a library? That’s a thing here. Really. World renowned bondage expert and women’s empowerment sexuality educator, Midori, is hosting a play space for folks to try their hand at rope bondage. Yeah. While surrounded by a most amazing sexuality library. Get more info and buy tickets here!
Annnnnnd then there’s Metta Dance! I was thrilled to co-facilitate a workshop on exploring polyamory at last month’s Metta Dance event. This month, on August 24th, they’ve got two of my favorite people leading a workshop on how to get what you want in bed. Yup, Lidia-Anain of Sex, Love, Joy and Dr.Charlie Glickman of Good Vibrations have strategies to share on how to get you there. And by there, I mean good sex. The sex you want to have. Lidia-Anain is a sex-positive parent and Charlie has been advocating and defining sex-positive for years and years now. So check out Metta Dance. Their whole set up is amazing. A whole night of whole body self care. Raw food, organic tea, and the music.. rrhmegerd… so good. More info here!
So how’s that for a morning round up? Not too shabby for a Wednesday. Enjoy your August!!! and remember: