Balancing Acts

…as in the actions that balance us. The gives and takes that lightens our burdens or increases our strengths. The movement that keeps us centered. Every Equinox I post something about the beauty of balance. Just like how at every Solstice I write about the thrill of submersion. I’m a day late for the Spring […]

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Mothers with dangerous voices.

Today is the shared birthday of three woman who inspire me in all parts of my life- my parenting, my studies, my activism, my art, my sexuality, my feminism and my belief in radical love: Yoko Ono, Toni Morrison and Audre Lorde. This post is dedicated to these three brilliant brave women.  So you become […]

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Chipped China

My 14 year old is doing the dishes and says, “Mom? Shouldn’t we throw this coffee mug away? It’s chipped.” “I like the chip in it! It’s shaped like a heart! It’s a love mug!” I tell him. “Besides, that’s Karen & Lo’s mug, we can’t get rid of it.” “Only you would see love […]

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Living the Improbable Path

I’m going to start this post by partially quoting Sarah (or Dopp if you’re a nasty): “…becoming just as boring, complacent, uninspiring, and useless as I feared I would if I ever chose a traditional path over living an extraordinary story.” That’s a helluva a confession to make. It was the “living an extraordinary story” […]

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Behold! The Power of Jars (or Happy 2014)

I am always so happy at the change of the year. Goodbye 2013, fucking hell what a frienemy of a year. When I look ahead to 2014, I see jars. Yes, big beautiful jars. This year I fell in love with jars. So maybe 2013 can be seen as the beginning of a beautiful relationship. […]

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Condom slips and fits.

So, here’s a story only a sex educator will tell you. One night, I came back to a lover’s house after going out. It’s kinda late and we are drinking tea at his kitchen table, giggling and whispering as to not disturb his housemate, who we are pretty sure has company. Eventually, the bedroom door […]

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Happy 3rd Annual International Fisting Day!

Yup, it’s a real day. Why? Well, it’s mostly about fisting being viewed as an extreme sex act that isn’t allowed in mainstream porn. Apparently, it’s too difficult for some companies to take the time to differentiate between punching and fisting. If there were no difference, then why would there be different terminology? So today […]

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You wanna know what pisses me off?

I just got home from my daily BART ride. I should be cooking dinner, but there’s no way that’s gonna happen until I write what happened down. You ever get like that? Have to write something down so that you can get on with your day? Just me? Damn, ok. On today’s episode of “what […]

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On Full Moons and Porta Potties

Happy Autumnal Equinox! If you’ve been reading for any length of time, you’ll know how much I depend upon the wheel of the year to guide me. It’s a funny thing to realize how much I value structure when I spent so much of my young adult life going on about how structure just wasn’t […]

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Webs and Ripples and Loves

Yay it’s September! For real, August has always been such a shit of a month. Like historically complete crap. Which is weird since I love the summer, but maybe by the time the end of August hits, the thrill of fresh peaches and ripe avocados starts to fade, everything feels a little too dried out. […]

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