A Request from the Sweetest Man I’ve Ever Known (Guest Post)

Dear Men, Please be sweet to the boys in your life. You do not need to toughen them up, there are enough TV shows, movies, video games and other men who buy into hyper-masculine patriarchy to teach them that sort of thing. I implore you to teach the young boys in your life to learn […]

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The Gift of Speaking Clearly

There is power in speaking directly. Learning how to utilize a declarative tone of voice has helped me navigate tricky situations throughout my life. I am grateful that I have the ability to say exactly what is on my mind and convey my thoughts clearly. I feel like teaching our children to communicate clearly and […]

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Owning the Awkward

If I had a dollar for every time my kids said, “Mom, that’s so awkward!” I could fund universal childcare for us all. Since they’re teenagers now, I can look back over the years and see how awkward has evolved. Cuz while the exclamation is the same… what provokes it has changed. Me dating is […]

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Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary

Have you ever wondered how revolutionaries are made? Like, no really, when I read about someone who dedicates their life to making change and I always think, “How in the Hell did they come to be where they are?” It’s quite a gift to be able to have that question answered in real time. Polly […]

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Love in the time of Ferguson

My father doesn’t understand why I’m committed to racial justice. It’s always been bewildering to him, maybe cute or exciting on the good days, self-indulgent and misguided on the bad ones. I remember being 14 years old and arguing with him about the impact of race and socioeconomic status on high school graduation rates in […]

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Taking the Time to Dream

I’m a U2 fan. Whew. There. I admitted it. Ok, so, in rock history there’s this moment when U2 is finishing their Lovetown Tour, after the release of Rattle & Hum, when Bono says, “It’s no big deal, it’s just – we have to go away and … and dream it all up again.” And […]

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Meteors

Tonight the Orionid meteors blaze through the sky, but I’m too tired tonight to stay up and see them. And I’m totally ok with that; had a long weekend. I watched the sunrise three mornings in a row. Watched Mama Bear fade into the green Eastern horizon. Next to the Geminids, Orion’s meteors are my favorite […]

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Worthy

I have this sticker on my laptop, it says, “You Are Loved” and originally it was for the benefit of my fellow coffee shop dwellers, typing away on their own laptops. I imagined how nice it might be for someone to look up from their screen and see this beautiful reminder facing them. You, yes […]

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My Gifts

When I was a kid I was labeled as gifted. This was the year I went to an elementary school around the corner from my grandparents house, the same elementary school my dad went to. I even had the same 4th grade teacher as he did. I walked into the classroom after having missed the […]

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Normalize Not Scandalize

Last week a journalist from Denmark reached out to me. She wants to know, and apparently her readers at the Danish magazine she writes for also want to know, why parents in the US have such a hard time discussing sex and gender with our children while parents in Denmark find it quite natural. Damn. […]

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